Questions from brooke
I recently faced my lifelong fear of the dark, watching it disappear completely in two days. In fact, most of my big fears have turned out much milder than I imagined. Was this your experience during your awakening?
Congratulations on making such great progress with your fear of the dark so quickly. It sounds like you were ready to fully let that go, which is such a wonderful feeling of liberation.
Regarding my experience, sometimes new fears would arise related to flying, driving (general mobility issues). I realized over time that perhaps they were not "fears" so much as my body telling me it was time to take a break from life, go within, and doing things such as flying back to visit family until deeper issues with them could be resolved. So in these cases, I've not found it useful to push through such resistance (which feels like fear) so much as listen to what my body wants.
I'd say the greatest strides I made in terms of overcoming fears was learning to risk losing relationships with people so that I could no longer be conflict avoidant. I realized that I had enabled various forms of obnoxious or self-destructive behavior in others so that they would like me. I also came to understand the importance of dealing with unfinished business in my relationships. In moving through my fear of direct communication (which at its core was a fear of being abandoned for being myself) I was able to gain a great deal of personal empowerment. I also lost a lot of relationships, which was difficult, but in the process I learned how to be more comfortable with myself. I believe that facing these fears was related to my spiritual awakening because part of what I learned as I awoke is that we are here to live honest lives, and that compromising our truth in exchange for being "liked or loved" doesn't allow us to experience being loved for who we are...which is the only form of love that heals.
Are we often more fearful of feeling the fear, than feeling what's at the root?
I believe the ego benefits from us avoiding "getting to the root" because it remains in control when we are afraid. Other people who do not have our best interest in mind may also unconsciously or consciously want us to remain afraid because then we are easier to control. People who are direct and fearless in their approach to interacting with others can not be manipulated so easily, and are much more likely to make choices that inconvenience the egos of others.
If we've had negative experiences with feeling very afraid, it is understandable that we'd like to avoid "feeling the fear" again. For example, if in the past you had a panic attack while in the dark, it felt uncomfortable to have a racing heart, scattered thoughts, or other symptoms of intense anxiety. Not wanting to feel uncomfortable again, it'd be understandable to avoid the dark until eventually reaching the conclusion that this was creating an unnecessary limitation in your life (for example, mailing a letter or taking the garbage out at night). Our spiritual development can push us into courageous acts when we realize that our life is restricted by fear. A surge of confidence arises, and we say to ourselves, "I'm going to do this even if I feel some anxiety because I'm fed up with feeling limited!" And when we move through that initial resistance, we often find that the fear was simply a thought in our mind that we no longer need.
Sometimes prior to facing a fear it can be useful to take a look at a worst case scenario. By realizing that in most cases the things we fear will not kill us, but will only make us feel uncomfortable, embarrassed, or self-conscious, that can help us to move forward. I am thinking now of the beautiful quote by Anais Nin:
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
Peace,
Chris
Get 5 Free Minutes ~ Live Psychic and Tarot Readings
Get 10 Minutes for $1.99 ~ Live Psychic and Tarot Readers
This blogger is supported by ethical reading sites which offer live online psychic readings, tarot readers and astrology.
I recently faced my lifelong fear of the dark, watching it disappear completely in two days. In fact, most of my big fears have turned out much milder than I imagined. Was this your experience during your awakening?
Congratulations on making such great progress with your fear of the dark so quickly. It sounds like you were ready to fully let that go, which is such a wonderful feeling of liberation.
Regarding my experience, sometimes new fears would arise related to flying, driving (general mobility issues). I realized over time that perhaps they were not "fears" so much as my body telling me it was time to take a break from life, go within, and doing things such as flying back to visit family until deeper issues with them could be resolved. So in these cases, I've not found it useful to push through such resistance (which feels like fear) so much as listen to what my body wants.
I'd say the greatest strides I made in terms of overcoming fears was learning to risk losing relationships with people so that I could no longer be conflict avoidant. I realized that I had enabled various forms of obnoxious or self-destructive behavior in others so that they would like me. I also came to understand the importance of dealing with unfinished business in my relationships. In moving through my fear of direct communication (which at its core was a fear of being abandoned for being myself) I was able to gain a great deal of personal empowerment. I also lost a lot of relationships, which was difficult, but in the process I learned how to be more comfortable with myself. I believe that facing these fears was related to my spiritual awakening because part of what I learned as I awoke is that we are here to live honest lives, and that compromising our truth in exchange for being "liked or loved" doesn't allow us to experience being loved for who we are...which is the only form of love that heals.
Are we often more fearful of feeling the fear, than feeling what's at the root?
I believe the ego benefits from us avoiding "getting to the root" because it remains in control when we are afraid. Other people who do not have our best interest in mind may also unconsciously or consciously want us to remain afraid because then we are easier to control. People who are direct and fearless in their approach to interacting with others can not be manipulated so easily, and are much more likely to make choices that inconvenience the egos of others.
If we've had negative experiences with feeling very afraid, it is understandable that we'd like to avoid "feeling the fear" again. For example, if in the past you had a panic attack while in the dark, it felt uncomfortable to have a racing heart, scattered thoughts, or other symptoms of intense anxiety. Not wanting to feel uncomfortable again, it'd be understandable to avoid the dark until eventually reaching the conclusion that this was creating an unnecessary limitation in your life (for example, mailing a letter or taking the garbage out at night). Our spiritual development can push us into courageous acts when we realize that our life is restricted by fear. A surge of confidence arises, and we say to ourselves, "I'm going to do this even if I feel some anxiety because I'm fed up with feeling limited!" And when we move through that initial resistance, we often find that the fear was simply a thought in our mind that we no longer need.
Sometimes prior to facing a fear it can be useful to take a look at a worst case scenario. By realizing that in most cases the things we fear will not kill us, but will only make us feel uncomfortable, embarrassed, or self-conscious, that can help us to move forward. I am thinking now of the beautiful quote by Anais Nin:
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
Peace,
Chris
Get 5 Free Minutes ~ Live Psychic and Tarot Readings
Get 10 Minutes for $1.99 ~ Live Psychic and Tarot Readers
This blogger is supported by ethical reading sites which offer live online psychic readings, tarot readers and astrology.
Posts
0 comments:
Post a Comment