Questions from brooke
I like the expression "come clean." Cleaning our home of excess junk feels renewing. Cleaning out our minds of all of the unfinished business with others also creates a feeling of renewal.
The way to begin is to express yourself with those from whom you have suppressed the most. Now in some cases, people have been so traumatized by another that they've wisely ceased contact. In these cases, it can still be useful to write a letter to such a person, but not send it. However, for the people in your life with whom you still choose to have contact, directly communicating is one of the most powerful things you can do to liberate yourselves into the life of an empowered adult.
Some people can talk to others about past issues directly. Some prefer the phone. If those avenues are too intense, you might prefer an email or a letter. Sometimes a benefit of an email or letter is that it allows the other person to go through whatever emotional reactivity comes up, then reply when they're in a more clear place. Talking in person or on the phone may result in a lot of "But..." and "What?" responses that get in the way of your ability to "get it all out." And it is important to get everything out in the open where it can be dealt with. Sometimes those we talk to rise to the occasion and impress us with their ability to process through difficult topics. Sometimes they withdraw in anger or victimization. We can not control another's response, but we can control whether we take the initiative to at least attempt to bring authenticity to the relationship.
If we avoid people due to unfinished business with excuses such as, "I've been really busy!" then we may attract from the universe an endless array of nuisances that truly do keep us busy. If we deal with people directly it helps to manifest a more spacious life since we no longer need excuses to avoid others.
There is no guarantee that your partner or family members will respond favorably to your attempt to clear things up. Many people avoid being authentic due to fear of loss. However, if you are on a spiritual journey, you will most likely eventually discover that if a relationship is not genuine, there is truly nothing to lose. As I've said repeatedly to so many people I've spoken with about this topic, we simply must take the risk of being known if we are ever to feel loved for who we are. Until we are honest about everything, including the uncomfortable stuff, we are only loved for our suppressed role, which feels deadening, hollow, and isolating.
Even if everything goes "horrible" and you lose all of your relationships by being honest, you will at least have yourself for your first time. Nobody came into this life with the soul purpose of tiptoeing around the control issues of other people. We came here to be known. In my book Unification there is a section called Reflections on Physical Immortality in which I assert that if we are not honest, our body attracts death so that we can be born into another life in which there will be a renewed possibility for a genuine existence. However, if we remain authentic in the relationships we choose to participate in, it helps us to remain healthy indefinitely.
For further thoughts on this topic, please check out my video, Tell Family Your Truth.
Peace,
Chris
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I like the expression "come clean." Cleaning our home of excess junk feels renewing. Cleaning out our minds of all of the unfinished business with others also creates a feeling of renewal.
The way to begin is to express yourself with those from whom you have suppressed the most. Now in some cases, people have been so traumatized by another that they've wisely ceased contact. In these cases, it can still be useful to write a letter to such a person, but not send it. However, for the people in your life with whom you still choose to have contact, directly communicating is one of the most powerful things you can do to liberate yourselves into the life of an empowered adult.
Some people can talk to others about past issues directly. Some prefer the phone. If those avenues are too intense, you might prefer an email or a letter. Sometimes a benefit of an email or letter is that it allows the other person to go through whatever emotional reactivity comes up, then reply when they're in a more clear place. Talking in person or on the phone may result in a lot of "But..." and "What?" responses that get in the way of your ability to "get it all out." And it is important to get everything out in the open where it can be dealt with. Sometimes those we talk to rise to the occasion and impress us with their ability to process through difficult topics. Sometimes they withdraw in anger or victimization. We can not control another's response, but we can control whether we take the initiative to at least attempt to bring authenticity to the relationship.
If we avoid people due to unfinished business with excuses such as, "I've been really busy!" then we may attract from the universe an endless array of nuisances that truly do keep us busy. If we deal with people directly it helps to manifest a more spacious life since we no longer need excuses to avoid others.
There is no guarantee that your partner or family members will respond favorably to your attempt to clear things up. Many people avoid being authentic due to fear of loss. However, if you are on a spiritual journey, you will most likely eventually discover that if a relationship is not genuine, there is truly nothing to lose. As I've said repeatedly to so many people I've spoken with about this topic, we simply must take the risk of being known if we are ever to feel loved for who we are. Until we are honest about everything, including the uncomfortable stuff, we are only loved for our suppressed role, which feels deadening, hollow, and isolating.
Even if everything goes "horrible" and you lose all of your relationships by being honest, you will at least have yourself for your first time. Nobody came into this life with the soul purpose of tiptoeing around the control issues of other people. We came here to be known. In my book Unification there is a section called Reflections on Physical Immortality in which I assert that if we are not honest, our body attracts death so that we can be born into another life in which there will be a renewed possibility for a genuine existence. However, if we remain authentic in the relationships we choose to participate in, it helps us to remain healthy indefinitely.
For further thoughts on this topic, please check out my video, Tell Family Your Truth.
Peace,
Chris
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