"Is porn OK?" was the subject line of an email I received from a spiritually focused friend of mine. I had mentioned to him as part of sharing about my desire to be single (until finding a truly compatible partner) that porn "helps."
His reply was:
you said "porn helps". While I wouldn't argue that and I certainly don't have any problems with sexuality and its many facets, I once read in a channeling that "porn is very low-vibratory". I'm not sure about that. Is that argument owed to christian-influenced prudery?
Certainly porn largely reduces the depicted persons (mostly women) to a sexual function. Where is the crucial point of balance there?
Instead of replying directly, I thought I'd blog about it...
Although I wouldn't want to date a porn actress (I don't tend to be drawn to women who've "taken in" a lot of unconscious male energy, and I'd be concerned about STDs, though I know they are regularly tested) I don't feel that what they do is bad. In fact, there are very few things, if any, I feel are bad if they don't hurt other people. Clearly, to do that kind of work takes a level of " energetic armor" that most spiritual/sensitive people wouldn't desire, but perhaps many of those in the porn industry require such a path to learn about themselves. It is all too easy to project upon others that what they do is "negative" simply because it is not appealing to us personally.
I feel that many people who channel from the spirit realm allow their values to influence the information that is "coming through." There are many low-vibrational energies in the world, but perhaps they are positive if utilized as part of one's journey. A friend of mine who became a professor of Women's Studies researched dancers who worked at a strip club, and found that in many cases it was a job that empowered them. This went against many assumptions that well-intentioned sensitive people hold.
Regarding porn, I recall learning in a graduate counseling class that the behavioral psychologist B.F. Skinner recommended that lonely, elderly people watch porn to feel better. As a behaviorist, he wasn't thinking in terms of right or wrong, he was looking at how a certain stimulus would affect the subject.
As for myself, I read recently that ejaculation is good for the prostate. Masturbation is thus clearly one of the more pleasurable ways to take care of one's health. Not having a partner, there are two ways that I can ejaculate through masturbation: internally created fantasies, or visual stimulation. I have heard some people can orgasm just through the pleasure of the touch they give themselves...with no other fantasy. I'm not one of those folks. In fact, I don't get aroused by thoughts of famous beautiful women or other females I don't know. I have to think of someone I know to get aroused.
I believe there is a downside to thinking about women I know. If it is someone from my past, the power of thought can lead me into nostalgia. If it is someone from my present whom circumstances disallow me from dating, that could be problematic in terms of putting thought energy in a direction that is futile. Using porn can be a way of getting aroused, getting a biological release, and avoiding semi-consciously "creating energy" with someone I know.
There is a long history of spiritual-sexual healing in many different cultures, and porn is a way of experiencing that energy via the media instead of in-person. I don't think that in-person sexual healing is necessarily a bad thing, but it's not something I'm drawn to for the same reasons I mentioned about not wanting to date a porn actress.
It's true that women are reduced to sexual objects in porn. So are men. Both genders are portrayed in a carnal, ravenous light. I feel that this is an important part of the fantasy they provide. In real life we have to hold back on our attractions because we are empathic, respect others' boundaries and/or want to be appropriate members of society. But our biological inheritance still pulses within us. Some people enjoy tender, softcore porn in which people act very loving towards each other. Personally, I like fantasies where people have just met on the street, or there's some other kind of newness or uniqueness to their situation. I actually get turned off if the porn characters are "boyfriend & girlfriend" or "husband & wife." I'd much rather see a naughty nurse seduce a male who has come to the hospital for a penis reduction evaluation. Actually, all kinds of nurse fantasies turn me on. I've often felt as though this is because I wasn't adopted until I was over 5 months old, and believe my earliest "attachment figures" were nurses and other female caregivers.
I heard recently that in the United States, a study showed that states that had a higher rate of pornography consumption had lower incidents of sexual assault. The correlation doesn't necessarily imply causality, but I do feel that fantasy and release can lower an aggressive, animalistic impulse that most people have within them. Catharsis calms our biological drives, and lessens the desires that can lead to impulsive, selfish actions.
On a lighter note, I feel that fantasy assists me in taking my time as a single person, and helps me experience some of the aspects of a sexual relationship without settling. In other words, I wouldn't want to be with someone I don't truly love just to be having sex. I'm too sensitive to the overall energy of a person, and don't want to make the mistake I've made in the past of trying to overlook incompatible traits just for the sake of being in a sexual relationship.
Peace,
Chris
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His reply was:
you said "porn helps". While I wouldn't argue that and I certainly don't have any problems with sexuality and its many facets, I once read in a channeling that "porn is very low-vibratory". I'm not sure about that. Is that argument owed to christian-influenced prudery?
Certainly porn largely reduces the depicted persons (mostly women) to a sexual function. Where is the crucial point of balance there?
Instead of replying directly, I thought I'd blog about it...
Although I wouldn't want to date a porn actress (I don't tend to be drawn to women who've "taken in" a lot of unconscious male energy, and I'd be concerned about STDs, though I know they are regularly tested) I don't feel that what they do is bad. In fact, there are very few things, if any, I feel are bad if they don't hurt other people. Clearly, to do that kind of work takes a level of " energetic armor" that most spiritual/sensitive people wouldn't desire, but perhaps many of those in the porn industry require such a path to learn about themselves. It is all too easy to project upon others that what they do is "negative" simply because it is not appealing to us personally.
I feel that many people who channel from the spirit realm allow their values to influence the information that is "coming through." There are many low-vibrational energies in the world, but perhaps they are positive if utilized as part of one's journey. A friend of mine who became a professor of Women's Studies researched dancers who worked at a strip club, and found that in many cases it was a job that empowered them. This went against many assumptions that well-intentioned sensitive people hold.
Regarding porn, I recall learning in a graduate counseling class that the behavioral psychologist B.F. Skinner recommended that lonely, elderly people watch porn to feel better. As a behaviorist, he wasn't thinking in terms of right or wrong, he was looking at how a certain stimulus would affect the subject.
As for myself, I read recently that ejaculation is good for the prostate. Masturbation is thus clearly one of the more pleasurable ways to take care of one's health. Not having a partner, there are two ways that I can ejaculate through masturbation: internally created fantasies, or visual stimulation. I have heard some people can orgasm just through the pleasure of the touch they give themselves...with no other fantasy. I'm not one of those folks. In fact, I don't get aroused by thoughts of famous beautiful women or other females I don't know. I have to think of someone I know to get aroused.
I believe there is a downside to thinking about women I know. If it is someone from my past, the power of thought can lead me into nostalgia. If it is someone from my present whom circumstances disallow me from dating, that could be problematic in terms of putting thought energy in a direction that is futile. Using porn can be a way of getting aroused, getting a biological release, and avoiding semi-consciously "creating energy" with someone I know.
There is a long history of spiritual-sexual healing in many different cultures, and porn is a way of experiencing that energy via the media instead of in-person. I don't think that in-person sexual healing is necessarily a bad thing, but it's not something I'm drawn to for the same reasons I mentioned about not wanting to date a porn actress.
It's true that women are reduced to sexual objects in porn. So are men. Both genders are portrayed in a carnal, ravenous light. I feel that this is an important part of the fantasy they provide. In real life we have to hold back on our attractions because we are empathic, respect others' boundaries and/or want to be appropriate members of society. But our biological inheritance still pulses within us. Some people enjoy tender, softcore porn in which people act very loving towards each other. Personally, I like fantasies where people have just met on the street, or there's some other kind of newness or uniqueness to their situation. I actually get turned off if the porn characters are "boyfriend & girlfriend" or "husband & wife." I'd much rather see a naughty nurse seduce a male who has come to the hospital for a penis reduction evaluation. Actually, all kinds of nurse fantasies turn me on. I've often felt as though this is because I wasn't adopted until I was over 5 months old, and believe my earliest "attachment figures" were nurses and other female caregivers.
I heard recently that in the United States, a study showed that states that had a higher rate of pornography consumption had lower incidents of sexual assault. The correlation doesn't necessarily imply causality, but I do feel that fantasy and release can lower an aggressive, animalistic impulse that most people have within them. Catharsis calms our biological drives, and lessens the desires that can lead to impulsive, selfish actions.
On a lighter note, I feel that fantasy assists me in taking my time as a single person, and helps me experience some of the aspects of a sexual relationship without settling. In other words, I wouldn't want to be with someone I don't truly love just to be having sex. I'm too sensitive to the overall energy of a person, and don't want to make the mistake I've made in the past of trying to overlook incompatible traits just for the sake of being in a sexual relationship.
Peace,
Chris
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