Most everyone on the spiritual path understands the importance of living in the present. However, it is easy to exclude love from this practice. Because of our deep, sociobiological cravings that push us to search for a mate (and the socialization that perpetuates the myth that this is all we're here to do), we can easily slip into expecting romantic love to be the one area of life in which there should be some kind of guarantee and long term security. This can put pressure upon love and get us into the false belief that now is not enough.
Perhaps in part it is the fear of "dying alone" that keeps us so attached to the desire for illusory security. Of course, it is nearly impossible that both members of a partnership avoid dying alone anyhow, unless in rare instances where they both die in the exact same moment. How we live, in my opinion, should be based on issues of life, not issues of death. And it is increasingly clear to me that living in the present and letting it be enough is the key to an enjoyable life.
I have explored monogamy, polyamory and solitude. Within me exists a lingering, gnawing biological craving for MORE. More love, more sex, and more attention. However, I am gradually learning that none of the aforementioned 3 states of relating (monogamy, polyamory, or solitude) is inherently "better" than the others. Having a peaceful mind and living in the moment can happen in any state, but it is undeniably impossible to achieve peace during a mindset of "wanting."
If I am alone, I am fine. One lover, fine. Two lovers, fine. It is truly all good if I let it be. I am personally not interested in having children, so this inner drive to procreate that can so easily dominate my thoughts and actions is pointless. I've outgrown my sociobiological drive, similarly to how I have evolved beyond the usefulness of an appendix. And so, I am now allowing myself to shift from animal-motivation to spirit-motivation.
My spirit motivates me towards more peace in my life. So I set boundaries, eliminate negative relationships, embrace positive relationships, take care of whatever needs to be taken care of, and allow the details of each day to emerge. Living simply can be deeply fulfilling if it is free of longing for the perpetual illusion that something needs to be added to this moment for it to be "enough." Now is enough. I am fine.
Peace,
Chris
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Perhaps in part it is the fear of "dying alone" that keeps us so attached to the desire for illusory security. Of course, it is nearly impossible that both members of a partnership avoid dying alone anyhow, unless in rare instances where they both die in the exact same moment. How we live, in my opinion, should be based on issues of life, not issues of death. And it is increasingly clear to me that living in the present and letting it be enough is the key to an enjoyable life.
I have explored monogamy, polyamory and solitude. Within me exists a lingering, gnawing biological craving for MORE. More love, more sex, and more attention. However, I am gradually learning that none of the aforementioned 3 states of relating (monogamy, polyamory, or solitude) is inherently "better" than the others. Having a peaceful mind and living in the moment can happen in any state, but it is undeniably impossible to achieve peace during a mindset of "wanting."
If I am alone, I am fine. One lover, fine. Two lovers, fine. It is truly all good if I let it be. I am personally not interested in having children, so this inner drive to procreate that can so easily dominate my thoughts and actions is pointless. I've outgrown my sociobiological drive, similarly to how I have evolved beyond the usefulness of an appendix. And so, I am now allowing myself to shift from animal-motivation to spirit-motivation.
My spirit motivates me towards more peace in my life. So I set boundaries, eliminate negative relationships, embrace positive relationships, take care of whatever needs to be taken care of, and allow the details of each day to emerge. Living simply can be deeply fulfilling if it is free of longing for the perpetual illusion that something needs to be added to this moment for it to be "enough." Now is enough. I am fine.
Peace,
Chris
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